About CRITICISM in TANGO

(At the end I share with you a synthesis of what I expose here)

Those of us who dance tango live in a world of our own—a separate family that is our TANGO.

We are privileged, because we have a passion that drives us to keep going, to grow, and to share.

And yet, human beings continue to make the same mistake that turns the world into a grey place…

I’m sharing these critiques only as examples of what we SHOULD NOT DO.

Notice that all three comments are based on something as subjective as criticizing a feeling:

- Someone perceives that the embrace isn’t joyful.

- Someone perceives that Nicolás is too mathematical and has no heart.

- Someone perceives that Oscar didn’t feel the pause in the music, which he “should have” danced to in order to set an example for his students.

What’s the point of judging and criticizing?

In its proactive form, it can help bring change.

But when there’s nothing to change, it’s just empty noise that clutters the world.

Yes, the whole world! So, it’s useless.

Remember the butterfly effect?

Well… one criticism can cause damage here and all the way in China.

It’s an attitude that spreads a virus called arrogance, because everyone thinks they know better, feels entitled to express a thought that, in their own mind, seems important—without realizing that it serves no purpose.

It only unleashes the famous butterfly effect.

So, what is criticism good for?

It serves to stir up emotions like anger, rage, frustration… and to make others feel bad.

Still feel like criticizing just because you think your opinion matters to the world?

Think again. And ask yourself before speaking:

Does what I’m about to say build or destroy?

Then, if you still want to, speak.

Whether you like something or not… is subjective.

Your opinion… is subjective.

Your feeling, your perception… is subjective too.

These judgments depend on emotional factors, beliefs, experiences… that are stored within you.

Expressing them negatively serves no purpose: it creates conflict.

But expressing to support, to value, to uplift… creates unity.

Before speaking, ask yourself:

Do I want to divide, or would I rather create connection?

I’m not talking about constructive criticism meant to improve or fix something.

I’m talking about artistic criticism, which is inherently subjective.

We cannot turn the tango community into a battlefield.

I’m not naming those who made these comments because I don’t want anyone to go after them or send them aggressive messages.

That would be doing exactly what they did.

I only want to raise awareness, so we can continue evolving into a more loving version of ourselves.

That’s the true game of life.

The rest are just side games that distract us, to see whether we stay firm on the main path: the path of expressing love.

And remember: even with your judgment, you can help build a better world.

Don’t forget that.

✨ Tango Unites Us✨  

We live in a world of our own.  

A family that breathes through embrace.

💃 We are privileged  

We have a passion that moves us to grow and share.

But humans still...  

💭 fall into the same old trap.  

Turning the world a little greyer.

🗣 Criticizing a feeling…

— “That embrace is not joyful”  

— “Nicolás is too mathematical and has no heart”  

— “Oscar missed the pause he should have danced to”

🔁 What’s the point?

✅ Criticism can build when it helps.  

❌ But when there’s nothing to change, it’s just noise.  

🌍 And that noise pollutes the world.

🦋 Remember the Butterfly Effect?

A meaningless critique  

🧠 comes from ego  

😤 causes anger  

💔 destroys

Before speaking, ask yourself:  

👉 Does this build or destroy?

🎨 Art is subjective.  

🧡 What you feel, what you think… is too.

You can divide… or connect.  

Hurt… or inspire.

🕊️ Choose connection.

💡 It’s not censorship. It’s not silence.  

It’s conscious kindness.

❤️‍🔥 This is the true game of life:  

To express love.