Life is a milonga! Dance all, comrades, because dancing is a hug.
In this section we want to share with you our most intimate thoughts on tango. Tango as a form of emotional growth that expresses love. Tango can be lived in many ways, it can be a simple pastime or it can become a way of life and become something much deeper than a simple dance. As life, we can live intensely, enjoying every act or we can live running behind a goal losing sight of the enormous amount of situations that this gives us to teach us to love and express love. The Tango can become a means of communication where the main and only energy that flows is love, Love with the capital A, unconditional love, can be a sublime form of communication, a moment of full happiness. It is not a simple dance but rather a way of life, once the love for tango was born, Tango will be in everything that surrounds us. Once the Tango enters our life it provides us, step by step, all the elements to keep growing, as people, as every event in our lives, gives us the tools to learn and follow our path of happiness. The Tango as a creative expression. There is another very fun, exciting approach to this dance that is its creative aspect. From the most playful point of view we can say that the tango is an extraordinary fun where when we dance we can express all our creativity. The continuous learning and the creative possibilities offered by this wonderful dance are endless and are directly proportional to our ability, musicality and imagination.
Dance free of the need for approval. The way one sees and feels the tango is a reflection of what one carries inside. Everything is a reflection, the way of dancing in which the main attention is to show itself derives from the need to receive approval, a need that is born when from small we give rewards to every achievement, to every good thing that we do, when we give kisses and hugs every time we demonstrate a skill, we achieve a goal instead of receiving love constantly no matter why ... it is to say that love, affection, attention always comes as a result of showing something that the observer can achieve to appreciate ... this is the root for which many people seek to dance, any type of dance, seek to be shown in order to receive this share of love / approval. Receiving true love is the result of having expressed it. First give and then receive ... and this can be applied constantly in everything we do, just enjoying every moment, enjoying the now and pouring all our passion into what we do without questioning, asking, worry about what others to our around you can think. If our main concern, objective was to show us then we would be taking energy away from the act we do, that is if I dance to show myself I will not be concentrated in the act of dancing and feeling, living that famous Now, turning all my passion into dancing because that energy What I use to want to show myself and surprise, to amaze others with what I am doing, I would be taking it away from the energy I use in dancing. We should re-educate ourselves and learn that this need for approval represents our need for love, which we believe comes from others and that instead, is really something that we do not need because by concentrating only and only on the now, in the dance we will be rediscovering all the love that we have and that we can express constantly, in each moment and each situation. It is normal to want to show yourself because it is normal to want love, but if we were able to identify that need / will to want to show ourselves, without feeling guilty for that, and remember that this thought comes from the ego, from our mind built through education, and that we can replace it with a new thought: my only goal is to love what I do, express love ... love dancing, love dancing, pour all my passion into dancing! That would make us 100% happy.
Meditating with tango
We can dance tango and live it alone as a demonstration of skill, fostering competition, comparisons, judgments or we can instead live it as an expression of love, where two people connect to each other through the embrace to become love, and in turn these two people join the music, turning off the constant noise of thoughts by listening only to the music, joining it, and in a room, a milonga, where several couples do the same, dancing all to the beat of the same tango This is how suddenly we all find ourselves united through the same feeling of love. Love unites, all other feelings separate. Love is the universal energy that connects us to everything, unites us to each other in one mind, the mind of love, for some the mind of God. Every time we dance a tango, a milonga or a waltz we can decide, choose from what point of view we want to do it. We can transform our dance into a precious moment of connection, union expressing love just by dancing from our connection with our mind of love. The tango will then be a beautiful moment of meditation through which we can be in contact with our true being. All people know how important it is to meditate for our life because through this practice we manage to stop the incessant noise of the thoughts of our mind built through the education received, from the family, from society to immerse ourselves in the peace of our true being, where there is no thought, not in the way we commonly have them, where we can feel peace, harmony, serenity from where we can project and express love, because we are living alone now. When dancing, you focus and live only now, enjoying the moment, and this is the way to be at peace. Living the now requires the presence of your feelings in the present moment, where there is no past, with grudges and pains, or future, with fears and worries. In the moment of now there is only love, and while you are enjoying your dance you will be immersed in the love that you express through it.
A person stunned by the thoughts of this constructed mind can not be at peace, because all thoughts of this mind are of fear, of competition, of resentment, of worry, none of these thoughts are of love. The traditional way of meditating requires sitting down and relaxing the mind, seeking not to have thoughts, there are those who meditate with music and others in silence. There are people who do not manage to meditate in this way, for those people to quiet the constructed mind is very difficult, and this is how all attempts to meditate fail. Each one finds in his life passions in which to pour all love, with which to express all his love and all of them are a form of meditation. Using tango as a meditation requires only your intention to want to transform it and use it for that purpose, connect with your love mind to express love. So when you're on the dance floor of a milonga, when you're sitting at a table observing people dancing, when you're in a class learning should only remember that you're dancing there, you should remember that your true purpose is to express love and to be at peace! Do not let your peace come altered by arrogant thoughts, of comparison, by judgments, criticism towards others or towards yourself. This would be wasting a moment of happiness! All the steps you use to dance the tango, all the steps you see others do, all the steps you learn are like different types of music with which to do your meditation and at the same time they are also the musical instrument that allow you to join the music that you are dancing. The steps are the vehicle for you to relax your built mind, full of thoughts and locate your attention only in movement, connection and music. So you have already made the first step of all the meditations, not thinking. Do not think is the way to get rid of those thoughts that bring you suffering so you can start to look and feel from the peace of your true self, from your mind of love.
All the movements, steps that you choose to be able to dance and meditate have to be movements with which you feel comfortable, with which you feel able to relax the mind, and that the corporal memory is the one that makes the movement. Of course, this is not achieved from one day to the next, it requires training, as does learning to meditate. Studying steps must then have this purpose and the comfort of them is achieved when during the learning we concentrate on the movement technique. Balance and quality of movement are necessary to unite tango and meditation, the number of movements, steps, is irrelevant, you could dance just by choosing some of them and you would already be achieving the main objective of dancing expressing love and feeling peace. The steps are like a dress, a suit that you will use to go to hug a person, unite with love to her / him and expand your peace to the world that surrounds you, you must only choose what dress or suit you are going to embrace. Your choice, then, should be to use the body to, through dance, tango, express love. Your constructed mind thinks that when you dance tango, love and sex are united, but if you only realized how false this is, you could allow yourself to release more love. Your constructed mind perceives love as a weakness because the strength and truth of love would annul the mind that generates suffering and for that reason, connecting tango to sex, you will be attacking your possibility of loving freely. Seen with the eyes of the soul sex is a celebration of pure love between two people and the sensuality of Tango is not connected to sex, the sensuality of Tango derives only from the desire to satisfy the need to love, to see the sensuality in tango is see our desire to love and express it in that way, dancing the Tango! So without judging the level of dance, without judging the style of dance, you should only remember to dance every beat of the tango from love, from pure love, transforming each dance into a moment of meditation! We are love and that is just what we should express! Remember this to each Tango and always and as a gift you will have Peace!
Live the Tango from our Ego or from our True being, love.
If people were not dominated by their egos, they would realize that there is a super simple way, we could say minimalist to be able to dance tango, and that this form would lead them to enjoy Tango more quickly and much, much easier. But of course the easy things do not like the ego! And that's why they spend years and years trying to learn things that are very complicated even for the most expert dancers. You could focus 80% on the technical part of this dance and 20% on the steps and that short lapse of time spent learning steps would be more than enough to learn the steps necessary to be able to dance while thanks to that 80% of time dedicated to the technical aspect of the dance, it would provide everything necessary for that 20% of steps learned to be comfortable, musical and full of passion, energy and connection! Unfortunately their egos dominate them and they prefer to spend years learning steps and steps and more steps because they feel that it is never enough for them, that none of these steps provide happiness, connection with their partner, with music. That is the motto of the ego, "search but you will not find" so the search continues and we never get to anything more than to more search. The dance steps are nothing more than a means to move to the rhythm of the music, in connection with the couple but they are transformed into the ego's hands into a means to exhibit themselves and impose our superiority, to seek to be special. Once we fall into that trap that will only provide frustration we have no other option but to continue learning more and more steps through which we can show our abilities and feel superior. But frustration, discontent, discomfort will be the order of the day for each dance. In this way we miss out on the great possibility that Tango offers us, the extraordinary possibility of being happy, transforming this dance into a moment of meditation that leads us to free ourselves from our identification with the ego and to be able to express pure love to all around us. How can we express love dancing? When at the moment of dancing we are focused only on the dance, without thinking about who looks at us and what they think, and we are really pouring into our whole passion, connected with our being, our partner and the music then we will be releasing love, expressing love , we will be happy. Freedom from the ego when dancing means freedom from the only obstacle that prevents us from being happy dancing.
Why is the technique in this dance so important? Because it is the way to know oneself, the way to know how to move the body, studying its mechanism in order to be able to dance with another person, united in an embrace that commits the bodies to the maximum, where each one must know himself well, Know your body to be able to follow the other or have them follow you. It is not a free dance, where we freely move alone with music. It is a dance where the quality of movement of a person benefits the one who dances and his partner, the knowledge of how to move the body is so essential to be able to dance that without everything becomes complicated and almost impossible, everything will feel uncomfortable, the steps will be very difficult to learn and hence the ego uses that failure to drive you in a continuous search for steps so that through some of them achieve pleasure ... and again the simple is not a challenge for the ego and studying the technique is something so simple, that you only require practice that is not interesting. The learning time of a person focused on the technique gets very busy and very quickly he enjoys all the benefits of Tango. Of course this requires silencing the ego, because when you get to practice the technique there will be a voice in your head that says: "You do not see that you are not dancing! You are an idiot practicing these stupid movements! Do not go on with this! ! " Or you could say: "Even this boludes does not work out well, how do you intend to learn to dance ... do not you see that this is not for you? Stop dancing!" If this happens, and it always happens, all we have to do is not listen to that voice, know what the voice of the ego is and continue with what we are doing, not make judgments !! The only correct judgment will be what we will do to see if we have axis or not, if our body manages to be comfortable and at the same time in balance, relaxed but in a dance position ... nothing else, then continue practicing and practicing, without judging us or judge, concentrating only on what we do, and enjoying practicing.
The continuous and constant error that we make all day is just to make judgments, to compare and compare and that clearly denotes that we are identified with the ego and therefore that it guides us. During the dance we do the same: we judge and compare! And so, being in the hands of the ego the dance is a torture, an effort, there is discouragement, frustration or for others through the Tango is put in a position of total superiority, where they believe Gods, where they think they are special compared with others, and measure their skills and achievements with others. Neither the one nor the other, nor the frustrated nor the God of the Tango will be really enjoying the Tango, they will not be united to anybody, neither to themselves, to their true being, nor to their companion or to the music, they will be seen separated and as such, as solitary bushes, unprotected, and so fear will arise, fear of failing to dance or fear of losing their ability in the dance or that someone more skilled arrives ... in short only fears. How are we using the Tango? Are we living it through the eyes of the ego or those of our true self? It is very easy to know, just by answering these two questions: Do you feel that when you dance you enter a world where there are only smiles, peace and full of love? Or, instead, do you feel discouraged, frustrated or the opposite, proud and with surprising, unique ability? It is clear that a Yes to the first question would be what would make you notice that you are living the tango from your true being and a yes to the second that you are living it from your ego. This would be the only correct judgment, knowing how to identify with whom we are identifying in our life, in our dance, with the ego or with our true self.
Express love and have fun: our only goals. Growth is something that occurs naturally in our life, just think about how our bodies grow, develop, animals etc ... There is a forced growth and a natural growth, the forced arises when we impose something, a goal an objective, as for example: "I want to dance one day as such person ... I want to be an extraordinary dancer ... I want you to take me out to dance many men ... I want all women to want to dance with me ... This forced growth is the result of our identification with the thoughts of the ego who can not do anything without having a goal, without a goal, without a dream to realize and It makes you believe that you can achieve it, and maybe if you really achieve it, but at what price, with what suffering? Then on top there will be another higher peak and you will always feel empty, with the feeling that this is not enough, you will start blaming yourself or blaming others for not achieving your goals: it is your partner's fault, your teachers, that you do not have time, money to learn, that you are very clumsy ... thousands and thousands of possible culprits. The natural growth is that which occurs without you noticing, without effort, practice, practice and practice in absolute peace until one day you go out to dance a tango and at the end of the session you are left with that feeling of peace, tranquility, in perfect union with everything around you and then your love is released and can express it. Practice without judging, without criticizing without comparing yourself, simply focusing totally on movement and music, and if the judgments appear, which will appear, we will simply ignore them because we know that it comes from the ego and not from our true mind. The only correct trial to practice will be to apply the correct technique, which makes us control our balance and focusing our attention only on this and we will grow naturally. Maybe we can become exceptional dancers, achieving success, whether it is international recognition or the fact that everyone wants to dance with us but that will be the result of a natural growth, you will have arrived there without realizing it, so you should continue, not considering that result , not observing it with the eyes of the ego, simply enjoying it! If you were a successful dancer you would have more people around you with whom to share your dances, your teaching, nothing more but that is all and above all I would make you 100% happy.
If instead you suddenly woke up in the cradle of success and you began to identify with your ego this would mean the birth of fears that suddenly began to emerge, the fear of losing that success or perhaps you could also start to fill with ambitions, wanting more success, and then you would be again in an endless search, there are several options that the ego offers you to continue moving in life without living it, to continue dancing without ever fully enjoying the dance. So very simply our only goals when dancing is to express love and have fun.